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minimus maximus
Occupation: Cohost of the kink and BDSM podcast "Off the Cuffs"
Location: Long Island, New York, United States
The Sex in My Business: Each week on “Off the Cuffs”, my cohost and I discuss sex and sexuality with our featured guest(s), including sex workers, sex educators, and myriad other people willing to speak openly about their kinks.
A Typical Day: My routine varies depending on the day of the week. If it’s not a Tuesday, I usually promote the podcast on social media, do a little bit of networking, and/or have the occasional production meeting. If it is a Tuesday, my cohost and I record the show. On those days, I drive to the studio, and then spend ten or fifteen minutes with my partner setting up, testing the equipment, the sound, etc. We then briefly go over who that week’s guest is and what we are going to talk about. If the guest is in-studio, we let them in and begin the show; if the guest is calling or Skyping in, we check their levels first to make sure they sound good — both to us and on the recording equipment — before we begin. In either case, taping usually takes about two hours. I introduce the guest, then my partner provides the first question of the interview. The guest's answer is usually used as a jumping off point from there. The final segment of our show consists of me asking listener questions of the guest.
The Best Part: I receive emails and other messages from time to time in which listeners tell me that they felt normalized, discovered a new kink, or started getting involved in their local BDSM community because of our show. This isn't merely an ego boost; it's very rewarding. Before the show, I never realized how much influence I had and how much responsibility was resting on my shoulders to give "good" and "healthy" sex advice.
The Worst Part: We do not make enough money doing the podcast for me to quit my day job. Since most advertisers won't touch sexuality podcasts — even ones as successful as ours — we subsist entirely on Patreon donations, which barely cover the cost of doing the show.
How I Got Here: A while back, I was listening to a lot of kink and BDSM podcasts and didn't like any of the options then available. I felt that all the shows I was listening to were either too dry and technical or were just being used as advertising platforms for pro dommes. So, I asked my partner, who at the time was new to my BDSM community, but who I also knew had some experience recording music, about the possibility of doing a BDSM podcast ourselves.
What Society Thinks: I have to explain to a lot of people that my podcast isn't about sex; it's about sexuality. Thankfully, my family is supportive, but I think my mother would prefer if I were talking about something other than sex. That being said, “Off the Cuffs” was recently named one of GQ's "Podcasts that will get you off", and I got a lot of positive feedback from family and friends about that.
When I’m Not at Work: I love listening to music and watching wrestling.
Published in Issue III: Language